My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now. We are both 22.
Earlier in our relationship, he didn't want to 69 much, or give oral. He said it wasn't very pleasant. I completely understood as I am very self conscious, no matter how clean I am down there. So I'd willingly give oral. On my end, I have never been dissatisfied, we have an open line of communication, he says the same thing.
However, recently, it has been a flip of the switch. He wants me in his mouth, or on his face every time we are together.
I am not complaining. But it was genuinely an overnight change. I asked him about it, and he said I just taste so good and it gets him going in a way he cannot explain. He has struggled to formulate an explanation, and I am always looking for an explanation to everything, this is how my brain is.
My questions are primarily for the guys:
Did you have a time period of disliking and then liking performing oral sex?
If so, what was the switch for you?
What is the appeal of performing oral sex? Why does it feel good to you if you aren't being penetrated?
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I hated going down on my ex because it just went on and fucking on.
And some other women stank like dogshit and onions.
But I still did it.
I only enjoyed it when I did it with my partner. Not sure why.
I don’t remember ever disliking it. I like giving pleasure and I like the taste.
Maybe he was listening to dumbfucks early on? I’ve seen some weird takes online about manly men not giving oral. Then he realised he liked pleasing you and realised the act itself was hot? Were you each others first or did he have prior experience?
Maybe it’s something he really can’t explain and it just flipped one day. Maybe he just doesn’t want to get into the reason. I have tons of likes/dislikes that I can’t really explain why I have.
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I’m a woman, but I think this is likely a similar brain process happening here – sometimes receiving oral grosses me out. Even from the same partner I’ve enjoyed oral from before. I’m not sure why, but sometimes I go through periods where tongues seem repulsive, oral just feels like you’re weirdly licking any random part of my body, and even making out disgusts me.
Other times I’m all about it and I will absolutely ride the shit out of someone’s face. So I would be open to the evolving sexual interests and attractions of my partner too, because I understand there can be a lot of variance.
I’ve always loved it. I love it when her legs start to tremble, and I hear her getting close.
I think oral is more chemistry than we realize. I really didn’t love oral in the past. Other women didn’t smell, it was just regular. I loved getting them off but for me it was just not that great. When you meet someone that matches your chemistry for me it almost rabid behavior. I had to have it. Literally I wanted to lick her non stop. It could be a change in your chemistry that flipped the switch.