I'm 41F and honestly love having no filter with someone I'm dating. Random thoughts, things I see, processing feelings out loud – I want to share it all. If I have to second guess whether my texts are annoying, I end up not reaching out and lose emotional connection over time.
But I'm worried about coming across as too much or needy. Does texting multiple times a day actually help build connection or does it push people away?
I like sharing random stream of consciousness stuff – "saw this and thought of you," photos, chit chat about my day. I also like letting someone into my head about how I process things, even fleeting feelings.
My concern is I don't know how to gauge if it's welcome or overwhelming. Like is there a sweet spot? How do you do frequent communication without being clingy?
Does frequent texting make guys feel special or annoyed? Do you smile when you see their name pop up or does it feel like pressure to respond?
I want to stay connected throughout the day but don't know how to balance it without sabotaging things. Any advice?