My gf (19f) doesn't do anything. Like she doesn't just see things and do them. Like the bin being full. I go to put something in the bin, I see its full, I empty it. She goes to put something in the bin, sees its full, shoves it in and I end up doing the bin later. I ask her to clean the dishes while I'm at work and shes got the day off. I get home and they arent done. 10 hours later. I can't ask her to do anything and trust it will be done. I end up just doing things without asking now because honestly there's no point in asking anymore. It stresses me out and its a big strain on the relationship. I dont know how to bring it up because she will argue it because she gets very defensive and immediately will fight back and not listen to me or hear me out.
Idk what to do its at the point where I get home and see so much that I have to do for the house, ontop of what I do in the morning before work and just pour myself a drink and go cry.
How do I go about talking about this?