This is actually a very heavy topic. I have been friend with a lot of women in my life (non-romantic) and often like most men avoided being totally honest in such topics. I know it is a very much sex issue because my gay friend also tells me despite having many close women friend, he tells VERY watered down version of his life to them, because they don't react positively if he is honest, and they think is it exteme.
Lately I have been reading some women's/feminist blogs, subreddit and literature. Problem is, I assume because no one really honestly explain this to them, women's assumptions, which they believe is "the truth" is awfully misguided, wrong.
The understanding of our libido, is extremely little to say the least. How strong is our sexual emotions, no clue. They have practically no understanding how easily and naturally we can go from being 0 turned on to 100 in seconds, and see it as a problem, rather then nature of men. The intensity and wildness of desires, they have no idea. They often think and discuss everything as if it is just some kind of power play or misogynistic abuse or something, rather than understand it is something as natural as one's mouth gettting watery when they are hungry and they smell the food cooking from kitchen.
Things that are very normal and natural to us, are in many women's mind, sadly, sick, perverted. Like it is not something we feel, like feeling of heat near fire, but as if it something we demonically plan and contemplate just to be evil.
Maybe we have 0 to 100 in our feelings ,but because we don't talk to them (how can we, from the first women you dare to talk to last, you get so negative reactions, you can't) they think is it 0 to 10 , and assume 20 is perverted, while average man has 50 going on in his mind.
To the point that things we talk guy to guy, very "normal" things within friends, are often considered "problems that needs to be fixed". That is how out of the loop of male sexuality and average woman is, nowadays.
So many marriages I see are falling apart, because the reality of men and expectations of women are so different.
I think we as men, need to find a way to really explain how we are, how is the nature of men. But we need to do it without scaring and creeping out. This is where I need your help. How do you think we can do it?