Update from my last post!
Thank you for all the comments and advice, I just wanted to share the outcome.
We had a conversation about our intimacy and he ( like expected) blamed this on being tired from work.
He then made a point to say " when we were on holiday, we did have sex everyday, and thats not just a coinsidence" I do agree with that point, but also whats important is how we manage stress in our day to day life and make an effort to make time for eachother and time for intimacy.
That being said, he gave me a night " just for myself and my pleasure" we shared a glass of wine, candles lit, enough foreplay and then he went down there.
With the added pressure of achiving an orgasm, and the inconsistencies in what he was doing down there changing pressure, changing between using his hand and his mouth, finding diffrent positions, all in the space of 20 – 30 minutes ) I just couldnt cum! Also i think its worth mentioning that half way though he took his boxers off and asked me to get ontop of him so that i could " take a ride", i explained to him that Its difficult for me to orgasm after penetration as the sensitivity kind of goes away.
what also made it difficult was that hes never down there for long so it felt almost like a ticking time bomb and i culdnt fully enjoy it. |
He then said that " it was impossible" this made me feel broken, to which i replied " no its not, ive done it lots of times myself" trying to lighten the mood.
He then mentioned how he hadnt been enjoying sex recently and maybe we should see a couples therapsit. I have contacted someone and hopefully things will get better!