I went on a couple of dates with a 36 year old male. I’ve been dating him for a month. Things have been great. It’s been a wonderful connection however, I think I may have self sabotaged.
Context: He forgot my birthday and he UPDATED his online dating account during my birthday weekend . I spiralled hard, and went cold turkey on this guy for 2-3 days. Our relationship prior was light hearted and fun. I was definitely a little cold to him. Now I have regulated my emotions and realized I just want to enjoy him and the moments not the outcome. I outed the birthday and he said he’ll make it up to me on Friday. Today is Thursday no exchange has been made. No Call, no texts, no nothing.
No conversations or follow up. Should I follow up? Did I ruin this connection by expressing these intense emotions too early. Should I wait for him to initiate the date?
Should I say hey no pressure at all but just wanted to check in for tomorrow, no pressure at all. . just wanted to check base.
What should I do ? So far he has been expectional at planning. Making the dates. I feel conflicted.
So this should be something he should initiate. He has always initiated prior. So for him to act this way, and not plan has me confused.
Im debating to wait and see method or to follow up with him.
What is the best course of action