I have found myself in a very awkward social situation. My gf (F20) and I (M21) have lots of mutual friends, and have been dating for about 3 months.
I’m realizing that I’m just not that attracted to her, and that I may still be in love with one of her close friends, let’s call her Kate. I had my chance with Kate earlier, but failed to take it, but am unable to get over her feeling that there was once a chance.
If I could go back, I would never have started dating my gf, and I wish we could have stayed friends. My dream outcome is that we could breakup, still be friends (she is super cool, but I am not I love with her), and most importantly to me not lose our mutual friends or be socially isolated as a result.
Am I being stupid by considering breaking up? She is a great person but I don’t think she is perfect for me, if I don’t get butterflies for her like for others I’ve liked or if I find that I am more attracted (Important note: Emotionally not just physically!).
Apologies for length/errors.