TL;DR : I am a female and I have this thing where I develop a crush on a guy and if they have a girl as their close friend, I will develop a crush on the girl too. I rarely like girls unless they are my crush’s friend. So I wonder if it’s a subconscious thing to get closer to my guy crush or if I somehow begin to idealize the girl since my crush spends so much time around her. Has anyone ever experienced this or have any insight?
For more context, the girl and the guy met 6 months ago and have been best friends since. I met them both about two months ago. They arrived in my life as a pair of best friends and they have both told me multiple times that they are purely platonic which I believe, but at first I obviously was suspicious of both of them because a girl and a guy as close friends usually means one of them likes the other. Anyways, I have strong feelings for the guy and we have hooked up twice but he doesn’t want a relationship, he just wants to be fwb. So I am looking at other options obviously. And I have been hanging out with the girl more now as well. The guy has been going through it in his personal life so me and her have been talking about him and debriefing about him together and we are finding out that we have more in common. And then I begin to find her attractive and start to fantasize about her too. So I am like, how is this process of developing feelings happening in my brain? Would love insights or reflections thanks for listening to my life story right now 💚💜