Men of AskMenOver30! In the interest of creating a deeper, more engaging, and more relevant community for all of us, we've implemented a recurring, Weekly Wednesday check-in thread.
- How are you doing this week?
- How are you feeling this week?
- How have things changed from last week (if at all)?
- Are you proud of anything you've done this week?
- Are you struggling with anything this week?
- Do you need advice or feedback on anything that's happening?
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39M here.
1. I’m doing well this week, just getting amped up for the holiday break and my kid coming home on leave from the Army.
2. Feeling decent but have a lingering cold that my wife and I picked up about 10 days ago.
3. Wow, this is a big one. My wife and I decided to start trying for a baby last weekend. I became a dad at 19 and so I have already raised one young man from birth to adulthood. My wife is a few years younger and hasn’t had children yet. We’re truly excited.
Other questions, nothing to note.
Things are going pretty well, although it’s really hard to stay motivated this close to the holidays. So much wine and cheese, and work is winding down but not quite as fast as my brain wants it to.
I plan to propose on Boxing Day. I think that’s giving me a lot of background stress, even though I’m confident. That background anxiety is also probably why I’m struggling to get moving on Christmas presents.
I find it hard to get going on the nitty gritty when there’s something coming that makes everything else feel just a bit… Trivial. You know?
I was crushing just after my breakup and I’m still doing “okay” for the time being.
* I’m still eating well and focusing on weight loss. I got some blood tests back and my cholesterol isn’t great. This is something I’ve inherited from my mother and it sucks. The holidays are always a pain in the ass for weight loss, too.
* I’m still getting at least four days of lifting and at least four days of lifting. Strength is coming back nicely, but I fucking hate deadlift. Really wanna hit a 500 pound deadlift after this block, but we shall see how it goes.
* My reading is spotty, at best. I’d like to be crushing books, but like I’m prioritizing lifting, cardio, and my budding relationship. I’ve been trying to get 10 minutes in if I can.
* I’ve been spending time with a woman I’m seeing and that’s taking up a lot of my additional time that I would have spent doing my self-improvement work. It’s been really nice and I’m doing a better job at checking in with myself and with her.
All in all, the last few weeks have been a lesson in adaptability. One of my coaching seasons started (six hours of practice and 10-12 hours for game(s)) and I’m trying to spend like 10+ hours a week with the girl I’m seeing. It means that I’ve reallocated approx. 20ish hours a week that I had just last month to do with what I wanted. So, it’s required me to check-in with myself to make sure I’m doing what I need to be doing and prioritizing things as I see fit.
It’s been hard because I’ve lost some of the things I really wanted to start. I need to look a little harder at being more efficient with my time, really. That will help me get to yoga, continue journaling for 10 minutes a day, and spend more time reading (something outside of my audiobooks).
Regardless, even paying attention to all of these things has been a huge step in the right direction to maintain my presence and to bring it forward in my relationships.
Saw a lovely thing today, two people rang the bell at the radiotherapy centre.
Fingers crossed for February and my own go.
So that’s me sorted for the week.
Rough week. I live in a different country from my parents, and only see them at most 2-3 times a year. My parents were visiting last week and my dad who just turn 70 is starting to slip mentally.
Makes me equal parts sad and angry and coming to terms with the implications of it all has sucked.
I actually feel better this week after my girl asked for space. Back on my routine of going to the gym 4 days a week, reading books. Checked in on her last week and she is doing okay but still wanting the space for the meanwhile, not keeping my hopes up tho.
Met with a disabled vet friend who is having the winter blues and going through a rough time. Planning a weekend hangout with him and some buddies.
No family in the US so this Hols is going to be same as always. My friends are planning a Christmas party.
I think i also need to see a therapist for some insights as well.
Overall, i am good.
Been working with a vendor for a decade, presented with them, presented to them, and acted as an occasional consultant to what I felt they should do based on my knowledge of their product. They asked me to interview for the perfect job for me 2.5 weeks ago and I have not heard anything.
It’s making it rough because I HATE my current employment situation. So I am in a holding pattern because I don’t want to apply to places if I don’t have to, nor cause the uncomfortable vibe in my office because I actually like my boss.
I just want a fucking answer. Plus, if the new job comes up the salary bump allows me to go home to see my mom next month.