I (M27) have been with my wife (F24) for about 2 years. Our first year was great! Our second…not so much.
To cut to the chase: I don’t know how to be a husband. I grew up in an admittedly sheltered environment, and I was very much catered to by my mother. I acknowledge that I have issues with committing to my responsibilities, and this is an issue I’ve struggled with for some years now.
I have been admittedly absent in my relationship with my wife. I don’t show up for her in very many ways. She says I have a very shallow relationship with myself, and because of that I have a very shallow understanding of our relationship. I don’t do things for her unless she asks me to. Part of the reason I’m writing this now is because u told her I would do the research to becoming a better husband at least two weeks ago. So far, all I’ve done is read two articles and not much else.
I don’t know why it’s so hard for me to show up in my relationship with my wife. I love her, and I want to be with her, but I also feel stretched thin, and confused. I don’t know why it feels so strenuous to do anything. I don’t know why she needs to beg me to do anything. I don’t know why I act like i don’t want to be here.
I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to get divorced, but I haven’t been able to step up to the plate for some time now. I don’t know why it’s so difficult, but it just doesn’t come as naturally as I thought it would.
Do you guys have any advice for me?