We got married 8 months ago and only have sex once or twice a month. When we first started dating just over 2 years ago, we had sex sort of regularly, but not every day. Then I felt a religious conviction to stop having sex until we got married. We were able to abstain for the 9 months leading up to our wedding. And actually I remember thinking it was concerning that it was TOO easy to abstain. See, I (F25) used to have a big problem with controlling my sexual urges. I was always wanting sex. But I think part of it was as related to internal, like emotional issues, because now that I’m with my husband (M31), he has really helped heal a lot of emotional wounds in me and I’ve done a 180 from the negative mental state I had before him.
We have a happy marriage, we love each other, we hang out all the time. But ever since we got married, sex has really been on the back burner. Neither of us is really being denied though. We just both never really think of it or bring it up, so it just hardly ever happens.
Is this unusual? Can you think of anything that might be causing this? Can you think of anything we could try to help increase frequency?
I’m concerned because I feel like we should definitely be having sex much more often, especially since we just got married this year.
TLDR: my husband (M31) and I (F25) don’t have sex often and it concerns me, but neither one of us is necessarily denying the other, and I’d like advice on how to increase frequency.