I’m coming out of an 8 year relationship where we were extremely compatible in bed. In short, we moved as one.
In doggy, she always got into a really sexy position where her ass is up, and her back arched down so that her tummy was close to the bed.
I’ve had two short term partners since ending the relationship. In both cases they arched their back the opposite way, like they were trying to have their back touch the ceiling. It felt very different and made me feel self conscious that I was doing something wrong.
I know I could ask, but these partners went nowhere and I didn’t really feel comfortable asking. But twice now makes it feel like a pattern. I know different people experience and enjoy sex differently, but the difference is stark and makes me worry I’m doing something wrong. For me it’s also less pleasant feeling in doggy this way.
I’d like to know from women, how does arching the back down vs keeping straight vs arching up change the feeling of doggy, and whether it’s a sign I was doing something wrong.