How would you react if a friend with benefits no longer was interested in the benefits?
December 6, 2025
They haven’t met anyone new just are choosing not to be physical with you. But they still want to do stuff as friends. Anyone experience this?
32 comments
It’s a strange situation; normally (not to say ALWAYS when this happens) it’s because there’s another person involved, although that may not be the case here.
But I’ve been on both sides: the person who was talking to someone else and the one who was left wondering, “What’s going on?”
If you’re not looking for anything serious with that person, it shouldn’t affect you. Just talk to other people and that’s it, the romantic drama is over.
I’m telling you this with a lot of love and respect. 💗
Yeah it’s pretty normal you just stop having sex
Perfectly ok, just hit up one of your other 12 options for wiener
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If you talk about the relationship that you too have, and the boundaries and interests with frequency, there is no shame or surprise. You just talk about it, explain your point, and move forward
maybe they’re lonely
Don’t be sad because it’s over, be happy that it happened
I’d try and salvage the friendship (especially if it was going on longterm before fwb) and not take it personal, although that can be hard. Usually these situations have to come to an end at some point.
Silver lining, you made a friend with which you share a deep level of comfort with. That’s often harder to find than just a lay.
I had an ex girlfriend ask for a FWB relationship until one of us found a relationship. So it was understood it was a temporary situation.
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Yes, you just keep being friends.
Did you develop feelings for your friend?
It might pass. Just be cool and do youre thing
I’d probably be hurt.
Cool! We’re still friends. Just not having sex anymore is pretty easy since it was a friend with benefits, not just a F-buddy or a one-night or an actual commitment.
When that happened, we moved on with our lives and stopped seeing each other all together.
Yep, more than likely it means that they are lying about meeting anyone new. But occasionally they become afraid that either you are becoming attached or they are. Either way, it’s best to just stop having sex and look for a new partner.
Sometimes people can lose sexual attraction. Sometimes they may get tired of meaningless sex. Only real way to know is to ask them.
Current situation. We’re best friends, then did stuff & now we’re back to not doing stuff. Ngl, it really fucked me up. Only because I developed feelings & it cemented how much I wanted him. Butttttt circumstances won’t allow it & I know he wouldn’t want me in that anyway. So eh.
I don’t regret the benefits. But I sure do miss it. 🥲
Get a new one 🤷🏻♀️ it’s happened when either of us start a relationship w other ppl and that’s ok, but not just because
Hmm well normally I get the opposite problem – guys only want sex and nothing more.
So I would probably think I had lost my touch? Am I unattractive now? Is it time to shave?
Yeah, I just told my FWB in May that I wanted to take a break. I’d like to do friends stuff with him but I don’t think he wants to, so we haven’t talked in a bit since my break.
Be honest with yourself about what you actually want. If you’re cool with just friendship, great. If you’re going to be sitting there hoping it changes back, you’re just torturing yourself. Don’t do the whole “I’ll hang around and maybe they’ll change their mind” thing.
Yes. It’d be great if everyone was okay with it. Problem is, there’s always one person who’s NOT okay with it. Then the relationship just sours. Or at least that’s what happened to me when I stopped handing out the benefits.
Now we, albeit neighbours and colleagues ignore each other in the hallway(s)
Just walk away from the benefits aspect of the relationship. If there are no longer benefits that means you are now just friends. Was that not the agreement when you started this aspect of the relationship? People are completely allowed to resend consent at any time for any reason. If you caught feelings I’ve got no advice. I’ve not been in that situation.
Could literally be anything. Maybe they have a yeast infection or a weird pimple down there or something. Maybe they met someone else. Maybe they’re not in the mood. Maybe they are catching feelings or they’re worried that you’re catching feelings and don’t want that to happen. If you need to know, I’d ask straight up.
Yes. It’s normal and that’s the point. It’s supposed to be temporary.
Isn’t FWB, by definition, no strings attached. Either person can literally cut ties any time with no explanation.
I thought that was Rule #1 for any FWB situation?
I didn’t have FWBs, but online friends with whom I’d sext, they’d share nudes etc. We were always clear that either party can stop the ‘arrangement’ for whatever reason they want, whenever they want. No questions asked.
I would simply stop having sex with them🤷♂️. The whole fwb is having a non-committal no strings attached addition to an established friendship. If both parties are going about it healthily, then either party stopping should be as simple as just not having sex anymore.
I’ve been on the other side of this, I stopped feeling the spark for the benefits part, but I really liked them as a person, and wanted to remain friends. They didn’t, which was a little sad because I really thought we had a friendship. To me it ended up feeling like they were faking the friendship part just for the benefits. If I’d known they felt that way I would have kept it way more superficial with them.
I guess what I’m getting at is, do you value their friendship as much as the benefits, because if you do you’ve probably made an incredible friend (although be aware it may be a problem for future partners).
I wouldn’t take it personally. People change and sometimes casual sex just won’t do it for you anymore.
32 comments
It’s a strange situation; normally (not to say ALWAYS when this happens) it’s because there’s another person involved, although that may not be the case here.
But I’ve been on both sides: the person who was talking to someone else and the one who was left wondering, “What’s going on?”
If you’re not looking for anything serious with that person, it shouldn’t affect you. Just talk to other people and that’s it, the romantic drama is over.
I’m telling you this with a lot of love and respect. 💗
Yeah it’s pretty normal you just stop having sex
Perfectly ok, just hit up one of your other 12 options for wiener
[removed]
If you talk about the relationship that you too have, and the boundaries and interests with frequency, there is no shame or surprise. You just talk about it, explain your point, and move forward
maybe they’re lonely
Don’t be sad because it’s over, be happy that it happened
I’d try and salvage the friendship (especially if it was going on longterm before fwb) and not take it personal, although that can be hard. Usually these situations have to come to an end at some point.
Silver lining, you made a friend with which you share a deep level of comfort with. That’s often harder to find than just a lay.
I had an ex girlfriend ask for a FWB relationship until one of us found a relationship. So it was understood it was a temporary situation.
[removed]
Yes, you just keep being friends.
Did you develop feelings for your friend?
It might pass. Just be cool and do youre thing
I’d probably be hurt.
Cool! We’re still friends. Just not having sex anymore is pretty easy since it was a friend with benefits, not just a F-buddy or a one-night or an actual commitment.
When that happened, we moved on with our lives and stopped seeing each other all together.
Yep, more than likely it means that they are lying about meeting anyone new. But occasionally they become afraid that either you are becoming attached or they are. Either way, it’s best to just stop having sex and look for a new partner.
Sometimes people can lose sexual attraction. Sometimes they may get tired of meaningless sex. Only real way to know is to ask them.
Current situation. We’re best friends, then did stuff & now we’re back to not doing stuff. Ngl, it really fucked me up. Only because I developed feelings & it cemented how much I wanted him. Butttttt circumstances won’t allow it & I know he wouldn’t want me in that anyway. So eh.
I don’t regret the benefits. But I sure do miss it. 🥲
Get a new one 🤷🏻♀️ it’s happened when either of us start a relationship w other ppl and that’s ok, but not just because
Hmm well normally I get the opposite problem – guys only want sex and nothing more.
So I would probably think I had lost my touch? Am I unattractive now? Is it time to shave?
Yeah, I just told my FWB in May that I wanted to take a break. I’d like to do friends stuff with him but I don’t think he wants to, so we haven’t talked in a bit since my break.
Be honest with yourself about what you actually want. If you’re cool with just friendship, great. If you’re going to be sitting there hoping it changes back, you’re just torturing yourself. Don’t do the whole “I’ll hang around and maybe they’ll change their mind” thing.
Yes. It’d be great if everyone was okay with it. Problem is, there’s always one person who’s NOT okay with it. Then the relationship just sours. Or at least that’s what happened to me when I stopped handing out the benefits.
Now we, albeit neighbours and colleagues ignore each other in the hallway(s)
Just walk away from the benefits aspect of the relationship. If there are no longer benefits that means you are now just friends. Was that not the agreement when you started this aspect of the relationship? People are completely allowed to resend consent at any time for any reason. If you caught feelings I’ve got no advice. I’ve not been in that situation.
Could literally be anything. Maybe they have a yeast infection or a weird pimple down there or something. Maybe they met someone else. Maybe they’re not in the mood. Maybe they are catching feelings or they’re worried that you’re catching feelings and don’t want that to happen. If you need to know, I’d ask straight up.
Yes. It’s normal and that’s the point. It’s supposed to be temporary.
Isn’t FWB, by definition, no strings attached. Either person can literally cut ties any time with no explanation.
I thought that was Rule #1 for any FWB situation?
I didn’t have FWBs, but online friends with whom I’d sext, they’d share nudes etc. We were always clear that either party can stop the ‘arrangement’ for whatever reason they want, whenever they want. No questions asked.
I would simply stop having sex with them🤷♂️. The whole fwb is having a non-committal no strings attached addition to an established friendship. If both parties are going about it healthily, then either party stopping should be as simple as just not having sex anymore.
I’ve been on the other side of this, I stopped feeling the spark for the benefits part, but I really liked them as a person, and wanted to remain friends. They didn’t, which was a little sad because I really thought we had a friendship. To me it ended up feeling like they were faking the friendship part just for the benefits. If I’d known they felt that way I would have kept it way more superficial with them.
I guess what I’m getting at is, do you value their friendship as much as the benefits, because if you do you’ve probably made an incredible friend (although be aware it may be a problem for future partners).
I wouldn’t take it personally. People change and sometimes casual sex just won’t do it for you anymore.