Context: I (27M) have never been on a date, had sex, had my first kiss, etc. Whenever I try to talk to women, they always seem uninterested in the conversation and basically look for reasons to get out of them.
I know it’s not good to come out the gate swinging with complete strangers, but even for casual conversation it feels like women just do not want to get involved. For example, I was at the bar with some friends last weekend to watch the OSU/Indiana game, saw a girl also watching a couple seats away, so I asked who she was rooting for. She said Indiana, I asked if that’s where she went to school, she said no, then left. No smile, no eye contact aside from the initial look, nothing.
And I totally get that that’s what can happen by talking to strangers. But I feel as though this shouldn’t be the case every single time. I read stories of how people meet and I see firsthand how other guys have engaging talks with women they don’t know, and I’m completely confused by it. I can’t recall ever having a fruitful conversation with a woman who wasn’t in a relationship.
I’ve tried asking my friends for advice, and they essentially say keep trying. They reassure me that I don’t look bad or smell bad or anything. And I know there’s plenty of people who don’t start dating or having sex until their 30s, but usually there’s a good reason for it. As a guy in his late 20s in a big city who went to a party school, I can’t help but feel that there’s something deeply wrong with me that I’ve received zero reciprocated interest in even just basic interaction, let alone romantic ones. I’m at the point where I’m not even worrying about my dating life necessarily, I’m worried that there’s just a fundamental disconnect that I’m having with women in general. I’d be happy to just have a nice chat without any pretense of a relationship, but it still seems too difficult.
I guess I’m just looking for any brainstormed ideas as to what the problem could be. I’m open to any form of critique, anything would be greatly appreciated 🙂