I’ve been struggling with this situation and would love an outside perspective because I keep going back and forth on whether this is wrong.
I was friends with A (23F) since high school. Even though I knew him through her and i was unsure of their relationship status, our friendships were always separate. We never hung out as a trio, except during her birthday— I spent time with A in person, and I spent a lot of time gaming and hanging out with M in a different friend group. I genuinely felt like I knew each of them individually.
When A and M started dating, I kind of foresaw it and I continued to be just friends with both of them in separate ways.
But after their breakup, A told both me and M that she didn’t want us talking anymore. I can actually understand why she felt that way — and felt that her feelings were valid.
However, her request basically ended things between all of us. We all drifted apart after that as things got messy.
Fast forward two years.
I randomly ran into M at an event. We talked a bit, then started reconnecting more, and eventually… we started dating.
Now I’m wondering: Am I an asshole for dating him even though A and I aren’t friends anymore?
I’m happy with him and it feels natural, but I can’t help but question if it still looks bad from the outside.
Would you consider this wrong?
tl;dr: i used to be friends with a girl (A) who dated a guy (M) I was also friends with separately. During their relationship she told us not to talk anymore, and we all drifted apart because it got messy. Two years later, after the friendship ended and their breakup was long over, I reconnected with M by chance and we started dating. I believe here feelings were valid back them but I’m not sure if it’s wrong to date him now.