We've been together for 5 years now. We never fight, we get a long really well and always have. She is my best friend… However that statement is starting to become a bit too real. The passion isn't there, I have a high sex drive she doesn't (she did when we met), she's not confident in herself because of her appearance and now I'm starting to become less attracted too because of the lack of effort and confidence. Overall the relationship is feeling very platonic at times.
I've tried suggesting we get out of our comfort zone, go out more, both of us to start working out to boost our confidence. All of which she's on board with in theory but when it comes to actually doing something and making a change, nothing happens. I tend to end up going out by myself and she just wants to stay at home.
I've mentioned how much the lack of sex life is affecting me a few times, everytime we talk about it she says she will try to make a change which lasts a week with us trying more but it feels forced and then we go back to nothing for weeks if not months.
My problem is that I still love her and don't want to do anything that would hurt her, but as time goes on thoughts of unfaithfulness become more frequent (which I hate the my mind goes there. She has been perfect in every other way and deserves the best, but I'm starting to feel like I'm not getting what I need either. So I'm stuck in a spot of wanting more but not wanting to lose her either.
Any recommendations on how I should approach this? All advice is welcome