I M48 met an amazing woman F40 naturally about 8 months ago. We started dating and this turned into a relationship. She was separated after being miserable in her marriage for 3 years and she initiated the divorce this year. Yes I know that's where I was stupid because she wasn't fully divorced yet.
The relationship was going really well but then her ex found out she was seeing me and he started following her, he paid someone to intercept her phone calls so he could listen to them and our conversations, put listening devices in her house when collecting the kids, slashed her tyres of her car when it was parked outside my place, verbally and emotionally abused her, and left his young kids on their own so he could follow her. He even paid someone to check to see if I was at her place once when he was out of the country. Ultimately he was arrested for all this and admitted all of it and is on bail until a court hearing. I stuck by her even though she always said she would understand if I walked away from all this.
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She ended things mid October saying that her life is chaos and she needs to sort herself out before being in a relationship. I respected her decision but circled back a few weeks later and we start talking again only for her to pull back again. When she came back again she told me that she had been talking with her ex about how getting back together would work and she told me that she was stuck in choosing the unselfish option of going back to him for the family unit, financial security and for the kids, or being selfish and choosing what she wants which was me. She told me its me that she wants and she just needs time to sort herself out, but she will get there.
Three weeks later I'm now blocked on all social media and messaging apps. No conversation, no message, I've just been removed. I assume she has gone back to him, but I feel so stupid for getting involved and then developing feelings in amongst all this chaos.
I see her most days on my way to work, it really stings that I just get removed the way she has done it. Was I stupid?