How long into being sexually active did it take for you to have regular orgasms?
December 2, 2025
Masturbation not included.
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15 years. Im 30.
Had my first orgasm about a year in. Had regular orgasms in that relationship for a few years, then never really had regular orgasms again.
A man has never made me orgasm.
Until I found men who were not selfish. Now it’s a priority
The next partner. The first couldn’t hack it.
I had an orgasm the very first time I had sex
My then-boyfriend and I were both virgins and he was really nervous, so I just told him “Lay down, sit still and enjoy. Let me handle this” 🤣
I lost my v card when I was 25. I faked so many orgasms, because I wouldn’t be able to orgasm with my partner, no matter what he did.
Now, at 27, I met this guy, who I always felt super relaxed and he was able to made me orgasm by rubbing my clit.
Alone, I have no problem orgasming.
I am 35 and have not achieved that level yet lol
Sadly
Around 5 years, the first time I slept with anyone a little bit older. He differed a lot from the student age boyfriends I had up to that point. More focus on giving me pleasure first.
Since I was 24, I am 31. Yes and everytime we have sex, either toys, fingers or mouth.
Immediately…
I lost my virginity at 16 and started having an active sex life at 18. Im currently 22 and the first orgasm I experienced with a parter ( he was masturbating me ) was a year ago and up until September of this year I had my first penetrative orgasm. After that first one they kept becoming easier to reach.
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I wanna say 5 or 6 years in. But I started when I was like 15 so obviously it wasn’t gonna be great for while anyway. Had regular orgasms with one specific ex for like 2/3 years of our relationship. Unfortunately haven’t had anything regular since. We only figured out I could even get there cause we both genuinely tried to make it happen. But if nobody’s trying it won’t happen.
Had sex for the first time at 18. I’m now 44. I had my orgasm with my partner quite late… maybe in my early 30s. Many men were selfish and I was too shy.
It works with my husband… so far only clitorally, recently… I have no idea why… I had my first vaginal orgasm. I didn’t even know I was capable of it 😂
I’m 38 and it’s only been within the last 3 years. I started being sexually active at 18.
First, I had to get sober. Alcohol absolutely messes with your body’s ability to orgasm. Then, I had to meet a man who actually gave a shit about giving me an orgasm. Turns out most men think a pump-n-dump is enough to get a woman to the big O. Spoiler alert: the clitoris needs some loving too if you wanna have some real fun. And I’m fairly certain that’s true for the majority of women.
My husband is a very generous lover and sometimes I cry after orgasming because it floods me with so many good feelings. I have never cried happy tears after sex until I met my husband.
Damn. Kinda wish he was home right now.
I should also mention- after a while I thought i *couldn’t* orgasm during sex, only masturbation, so i faked orgasms for a long time and never bothered to help the guys i was with. That was a mistake. Do not fake orgasms. Tell men what you want them to do. Help them help you.
I didn’t have an orgasm until I was about 27 😅 I was with the same person for most of my life and didn’t enjoy masterbating so I didn’t realize that I wasn’t or that I even could. I have a new husband now though and he makes sure I finish at least once before we even start having sex 💗
I lost my v-card at 18 but it was not particularly enjoyable. A few months after that I went on to date a guy from 18-19 that would occasionally stumble upon the will to make it good for me. It took until I was 24 and dating a much older man to have them regularly, and by my next relationship at 25- we were on fire. Hands down the absolute best sex of my life. 36 now, we broke up 9 years ago and I still want him and orgasms like that 🥵I’ve dated 1 other person since him but it was never a regular occurrence- he only had one mode.
There was a post about orgasms a few days ago.
I haven’t had one during sex. Idk why. It’s actually extremely common for women to struggle…..
I’m 37, started having sex over 20 years ago. Just got divorced this year. The man I’m dating now is the first to make me orgasm without any assistance from me. I’m basically feral for him 24/7 because of it lol.
I lost my virginity at 17.5 regular orgasms we’re maybe from the 5-10th time or so idk but pretty fast it became regular
About a year. Happened once with a partner, never again. On my own, however…
With my first partner? Nothing ever happened.
With my second — now my husband (and sometimes wife)? Every single time… and he barely has to do anything.
Most of the time I’m the one who climbs on. I settle against him and it’s like my whole body just reacts on instinct. He doesn’t need technique or effort — the way he fits against me is enough to push me right to the edge before either of us has even said a word.
It’s unfair how easily he does it.
How little it takes.
How quickly my body recognizes him.
He really is the perfect key to my lock — and he turns it without even trying.
My first boyfriend got annoyed by me “taking a long time”, and he could never get me off. I was able to get myself off, but his impatience and obvious irritation didn’t help me feel relaxed enough to orgasm from his touch.
He asked me what I wanted for Christmas, and I said, “For you to give me an orgasm.” He was speechless, and of course, never gave me one. He didn’t know how, and also didn’t care enough to be bothered.
The person I started seeing immediately after him made me orgasm during our very first sexual encounter, and he consistently gave me orgasms, in many different positions and ways, throughout our relationship. That’s when I realized, oh, there’s nothing wrong with me or my body.
Onwards and upwards!
I’ve orgasmed maybe less than a handful of times by men. The one long term relationship I was in he didn’t make me orgasm at all. I usually had to finish myself off afterwards whilst he was showering. I started to grow resentful of it because it’s like he gave up trying. I didn’t have a problem by myself.
Took me a year of regular sex to have one with my then boyfriend. I started having multiple orgasms when I entered my 30s needless to say my husband’s very pleased with himself LOL
It took me like 7 years. I had to come to terms with my sexuality (bi) then I had to get comfortable with my partner and learn that they are having a good time if you are. I was so wrapped up in what I looked like and “being sexy”. My best tip orgasming IS SEXY. You don’t have to be sexy you simply are and so have a good time and cum!!
Lost my virginity at 18, and pretty much have been able to orgasm every time. The only time I’ve ever had a problem was if I’m super stressed out or beyond inebriated. But even then I can still manage to go, even if it’s not as strong.
Well as a woman, I had to learn for myself what my body needed, and enjoyed. Then I could communicate to a partner, and have it regularly. Also, many women cannot even have one with PIV alone. All the more reason to know your body. Many need clitoral stimulation at the same time as PIV sex.
Do you mean regular as in frequent? Or as in some kind of “regular way” to have them?
Just chiming in to say if it’s about penetration leading to orgasm that’s not very common for women, and it is totally normal to need more stimulation. If it means no one’s doing anything to get you there or that you’re unable to achieve it with someone that’s more to explore.
About 12-15 years. First 3 bed partners were mostly preoccupied with themselves, although nr. 3 did try his best occasionally. We didn’t have sex regularly, so the tension was usually too high for me to actually climax.
Nr. 4 however… My god, that man could just go and keep going. The first to actually take his time, worshipped my body in all ways you can imagine. He taught me that there are many different types of orgasms. If he had told me before doing the do, I would have believed him to be a 2 pump chump.
Boy was I wrong.
I had an orgasm the first time I had sex. Had already been masturbating for a long time and have always prioritized only having sex with people who care about my pleasure and understand basic clitoral anatomy.
With a partner? Like 2 years.
I was 14 when I had piv sex for the first time 😬 and it took a few partners of varying genders to find my collaboration rhythm, if you will.
My now-husband has been the only person with whom I’m almost always guaranteed to come. We’ve always had a good connection in that way.
With my husband it took about 2 or 3 years. We were both each other’s firsts (for me he was my consensual first). We were inexperienced. He tried many times via oral before we finally found a rhythm got it to work for me. My sexual trauma didnt help which I think is why it took so long for us to get to that point. We used a lot of toys during that time he always made me a priority, still does.
Started having sex when I was 17. Took until I was 24 to achieve orgasms during sex. Through penetration and clitoral simulation.
Started at 20. 26 onwards it’s been great. Helps that I’m very comfortable with the guy and we cuddle to sleep, which somehow ends up in 1AM sessions.
13 years. Damn, it hurts to say that. But as someone who had their first time way too early, had trouble orgasming with a partner anyway, and spent the first four years of being sexually active in a sexually abusive relationship… I just didn’t feel like I deserved to communicate my wants and needs during sex. Until I met someone who literally got offended that I didn’t orgasm the first time we had sex and made damn sure I did the second time around. And then got offended another time when I tried to fake an orgasm. Proposed to him two months ago, heh.
Mid to late 20s and I was divorced with a kid before I had my first one with someone else in the room. The first time I had sex was at 18 yo. I regularly had them with a partner in was in my early 30s.
I’ve never had an orgasm during sex.
If pleasure is a spectrum I’m at the end of it of “little to no pleasure”. I mostly get pleasure in a sense of being close to him, but most of the time sex hurts. I don’t know why it is, and if people can help me, that would be nice.
I’ve been to a gynaecologist before and she said there wasn’t anything physically wrong with me that she could see and said if I had problems during sex I should go to a someone specialised in that. I don’t know tho.
I always feel like I’m too tight. About 6 months before I first had sex it even hurt/ was uncomfortable to put a tampon in. I also used to get really wet when horny but now, in my relationship where we do have frequently sex, I can’t anymore. I mean sometimes I can, but I feel like my body sees sex as a threat and not something pleasurable.
Even with masturbation it’s really hard to find a place that gives me pleasure / no pain (after years of practice I do know now but it used to be hard), and it was a long time before I could orgasm (sometimes I was masturbating for 4h). Even my clit hurts if I touch it at the wrong angle.
Any ideas what this could be?
Started having sex when I was 16. Now I’m 39 and I hope that one of these days I will finally start having regular orgasms when having sex. Lol this is kind of a joke though, I don’t think I will ever have regular orgasms during sex.
I know what to do when I’m by myself and it happened when I was accompanied, got help from partners, toys, etc but now I just accepted that’s how I am and that’s fine. I still enjoy it a lot even without an orgasm and it’s just not my goal when having sex with someone.
Second time I had sex (first time was just bad all around as we both were so nervous lol). I already knew my body all too well so I just told him what I liked. All my relationships after that, I’ve been lucky to get with men that are somewhat experienced but whenever they doing something wrong or unhelpful, I just tell them how to do it right and they’ve always been receptive so I’ve had no issues with orgasms.
Masturbating is very important girls. Get to know your body and it’ll be easier for others to know it too.
With another woman, first time. With a bloke, like, 15 years.
Regular orgasms with a partner? 10 years. ANY orgasm with a partner? At least 7 years.
I actually believed for YEARS that it was my problem and it wasn’t possible for me, despite the fact that I could pretty easily get myself off and had been for years before ever having sex.
To any ladies who might be in the same boat: yes it absolutely is possible, but it takes focus (don’t listen to advice that says just don’t think about it and it’ll happen) and a patient partner who really cares about getting you off for YOU, not because it’s some masculinity thing for them. And please let go of the idea that it needs to be from only penetration for it to “count”… that’s bs made up by men who are too lazy to pleasure their partner. And PLEASE, stop faking orgasms, you’re only hurting yourself.
This new guy I’m seeing finally made me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im 29!!!! I had sex for the first time at 15 but I don’t count that because he was evil so 17!!!!! I truly never thought I would ever because every man just rams into me and is so random with foreplay. Like so so so off the mark. And they rush through it.
He asked if he could see HER and I was like no I’m very self conscious she’s ugly!!! He’s like let me see. Im like im very nervous. He’s like it’s ok but can i just see? It’s probably not that bad, you talk very badly about yourself and you’re always wrong. It’s never that bad like there’s no such thing as a hideous one. I’m like ok. Fine. He’s like wow so so so pretty truly not even just saying that like looks picturesque. I’m like are you lying. He’s like no if it wasn’t nice I wouldn’t use so much language like looks so perfect. He’s looking AT her while saying this. I’m like ok thank you. He’s like can I touch? You clearly want me to haha. I am like ok yes. He was so so so slow and so gentle and really slowly touched me and asked if he could kiss and I was like ok yes. Oh my god!!!!! Before when women I’d met were like it is better than masturbation I didn’t believe them and thought they just really liked their bfs. Omg. I have been thinking about it incessantly. I finished so fast it felt SO good I felt so relaxed after I was SO relieved I didn’t have to fake until he stopped. After I was like were you lying did you think actually pretty. He’s like yes not only so pretty but so easy like your 😉is higher and so easy to find and kiss and inside can very clearly feel where your 😉is so I can massage it at same time. I am like really. He’s like yes why would you think ugly. I’m like I don’t know I have never felt like it was pretty at all and always just kind of ignored it and viewed it for functionality. He’s like ?? Haha what??
Why did my first boyfriend and the first guy I slept with just continuously try to convince me I/it was hideous hahahhaa like were they gay???? it made me so anxious about sex and being naked in front of everyone to the point where I didn’t want to look at it at all. Because I thought “ok well I’m about to sleep with this man and not have an orgasm” I never thought of it as like. I always thought there was a low limit to the fun/enjoyment I could have. There is so much fun to have literally why did everyone around me hurt me and make me feel like life in general is going to hurt and be bad and me existing alone is bad lmaoooooo ???????? . I was always nice and kind and gentle and fun and smart and inquisitive and interesting. Why have people worked so hard to make me feel bad about myself ??? Jealousy and self hatred lmfao
Im like I will not fall in love with this guy and I haven’t had sex with him or really even done anything to him but he is amazing at. Generosity! He is so good at head haha!!!
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15 years. Im 30.
Had my first orgasm about a year in. Had regular orgasms in that relationship for a few years, then never really had regular orgasms again.
A man has never made me orgasm.
Until I found men who were not selfish. Now it’s a priority
The next partner. The first couldn’t hack it.
I had an orgasm the very first time I had sex
My then-boyfriend and I were both virgins and he was really nervous, so I just told him “Lay down, sit still and enjoy. Let me handle this” 🤣
I lost my v card when I was 25. I faked so many orgasms, because I wouldn’t be able to orgasm with my partner, no matter what he did.
Now, at 27, I met this guy, who I always felt super relaxed and he was able to made me orgasm by rubbing my clit.
Alone, I have no problem orgasming.
I am 35 and have not achieved that level yet lol
Sadly
Around 5 years, the first time I slept with anyone a little bit older. He differed a lot from the student age boyfriends I had up to that point. More focus on giving me pleasure first.
Since I was 24, I am 31. Yes and everytime we have sex, either toys, fingers or mouth.
Immediately…
I lost my virginity at 16 and started having an active sex life at 18. Im currently 22 and the first orgasm I experienced with a parter ( he was masturbating me ) was a year ago and up until September of this year I had my first penetrative orgasm. After that first one they kept becoming easier to reach.
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I wanna say 5 or 6 years in. But I started when I was like 15 so obviously it wasn’t gonna be great for while anyway. Had regular orgasms with one specific ex for like 2/3 years of our relationship. Unfortunately haven’t had anything regular since. We only figured out I could even get there cause we both genuinely tried to make it happen. But if nobody’s trying it won’t happen.
Had sex for the first time at 18. I’m now 44. I had my orgasm with my partner quite late… maybe in my early 30s. Many men were selfish and I was too shy.
It works with my husband… so far only clitorally, recently… I have no idea why… I had my first vaginal orgasm. I didn’t even know I was capable of it 😂
I’m 38 and it’s only been within the last 3 years. I started being sexually active at 18.
First, I had to get sober. Alcohol absolutely messes with your body’s ability to orgasm. Then, I had to meet a man who actually gave a shit about giving me an orgasm. Turns out most men think a pump-n-dump is enough to get a woman to the big O. Spoiler alert: the clitoris needs some loving too if you wanna have some real fun. And I’m fairly certain that’s true for the majority of women.
My husband is a very generous lover and sometimes I cry after orgasming because it floods me with so many good feelings. I have never cried happy tears after sex until I met my husband.
Damn. Kinda wish he was home right now.
I should also mention- after a while I thought i *couldn’t* orgasm during sex, only masturbation, so i faked orgasms for a long time and never bothered to help the guys i was with. That was a mistake. Do not fake orgasms. Tell men what you want them to do. Help them help you.
I didn’t have an orgasm until I was about 27 😅 I was with the same person for most of my life and didn’t enjoy masterbating so I didn’t realize that I wasn’t or that I even could. I have a new husband now though and he makes sure I finish at least once before we even start having sex 💗
I lost my v-card at 18 but it was not particularly enjoyable. A few months after that I went on to date a guy from 18-19 that would occasionally stumble upon the will to make it good for me. It took until I was 24 and dating a much older man to have them regularly, and by my next relationship at 25- we were on fire. Hands down the absolute best sex of my life. 36 now, we broke up 9 years ago and I still want him and orgasms like that 🥵I’ve dated 1 other person since him but it was never a regular occurrence- he only had one mode.
There was a post about orgasms a few days ago.
I haven’t had one during sex. Idk why. It’s actually extremely common for women to struggle…..
I’m 37, started having sex over 20 years ago. Just got divorced this year. The man I’m dating now is the first to make me orgasm without any assistance from me. I’m basically feral for him 24/7 because of it lol.
I lost my virginity at 17.5 regular orgasms we’re maybe from the 5-10th time or so idk but pretty fast it became regular
About a year. Happened once with a partner, never again. On my own, however…
With my first partner? Nothing ever happened.
With my second — now my husband (and sometimes wife)? Every single time… and he barely has to do anything.
Most of the time I’m the one who climbs on. I settle against him and it’s like my whole body just reacts on instinct. He doesn’t need technique or effort — the way he fits against me is enough to push me right to the edge before either of us has even said a word.
It’s unfair how easily he does it.
How little it takes.
How quickly my body recognizes him.
He really is the perfect key to my lock — and he turns it without even trying.
My first boyfriend got annoyed by me “taking a long time”, and he could never get me off. I was able to get myself off, but his impatience and obvious irritation didn’t help me feel relaxed enough to orgasm from his touch.
He asked me what I wanted for Christmas, and I said, “For you to give me an orgasm.” He was speechless, and of course, never gave me one. He didn’t know how, and also didn’t care enough to be bothered.
The person I started seeing immediately after him made me orgasm during our very first sexual encounter, and he consistently gave me orgasms, in many different positions and ways, throughout our relationship. That’s when I realized, oh, there’s nothing wrong with me or my body.
Onwards and upwards!
I’ve orgasmed maybe less than a handful of times by men. The one long term relationship I was in he didn’t make me orgasm at all. I usually had to finish myself off afterwards whilst he was showering. I started to grow resentful of it because it’s like he gave up trying. I didn’t have a problem by myself.
Took me a year of regular sex to have one with my then boyfriend. I started having multiple orgasms when I entered my 30s needless to say my husband’s very pleased with himself LOL
It took me like 7 years. I had to come to terms with my sexuality (bi) then I had to get comfortable with my partner and learn that they are having a good time if you are. I was so wrapped up in what I looked like and “being sexy”. My best tip orgasming IS SEXY. You don’t have to be sexy you simply are and so have a good time and cum!!
Lost my virginity at 18, and pretty much have been able to orgasm every time. The only time I’ve ever had a problem was if I’m super stressed out or beyond inebriated. But even then I can still manage to go, even if it’s not as strong.
Well as a woman, I had to learn for myself what my body needed, and enjoyed. Then I could communicate to a partner, and have it regularly. Also, many women cannot even have one with PIV alone. All the more reason to know your body. Many need clitoral stimulation at the same time as PIV sex.
Do you mean regular as in frequent? Or as in some kind of “regular way” to have them?
Just chiming in to say if it’s about penetration leading to orgasm that’s not very common for women, and it is totally normal to need more stimulation. If it means no one’s doing anything to get you there or that you’re unable to achieve it with someone that’s more to explore.
About 12-15 years. First 3 bed partners were mostly preoccupied with themselves, although nr. 3 did try his best occasionally. We didn’t have sex regularly, so the tension was usually too high for me to actually climax.
Nr. 4 however… My god, that man could just go and keep going. The first to actually take his time, worshipped my body in all ways you can imagine. He taught me that there are many different types of orgasms. If he had told me before doing the do, I would have believed him to be a 2 pump chump.
Boy was I wrong.
I had an orgasm the first time I had sex. Had already been masturbating for a long time and have always prioritized only having sex with people who care about my pleasure and understand basic clitoral anatomy.
With a partner? Like 2 years.
I was 14 when I had piv sex for the first time 😬 and it took a few partners of varying genders to find my collaboration rhythm, if you will.
My now-husband has been the only person with whom I’m almost always guaranteed to come. We’ve always had a good connection in that way.
With my husband it took about 2 or 3 years. We were both each other’s firsts (for me he was my consensual first). We were inexperienced. He tried many times via oral before we finally found a rhythm got it to work for me. My sexual trauma didnt help which I think is why it took so long for us to get to that point. We used a lot of toys during that time he always made me a priority, still does.
Started having sex when I was 17. Took until I was 24 to achieve orgasms during sex. Through penetration and clitoral simulation.
Started at 20. 26 onwards it’s been great. Helps that I’m very comfortable with the guy and we cuddle to sleep, which somehow ends up in 1AM sessions.
13 years. Damn, it hurts to say that. But as someone who had their first time way too early, had trouble orgasming with a partner anyway, and spent the first four years of being sexually active in a sexually abusive relationship… I just didn’t feel like I deserved to communicate my wants and needs during sex. Until I met someone who literally got offended that I didn’t orgasm the first time we had sex and made damn sure I did the second time around. And then got offended another time when I tried to fake an orgasm. Proposed to him two months ago, heh.
Mid to late 20s and I was divorced with a kid before I had my first one with someone else in the room. The first time I had sex was at 18 yo. I regularly had them with a partner in was in my early 30s.
I’ve never had an orgasm during sex.
If pleasure is a spectrum I’m at the end of it of “little to no pleasure”. I mostly get pleasure in a sense of being close to him, but most of the time sex hurts. I don’t know why it is, and if people can help me, that would be nice.
I’ve been to a gynaecologist before and she said there wasn’t anything physically wrong with me that she could see and said if I had problems during sex I should go to a someone specialised in that. I don’t know tho.
I always feel like I’m too tight. About 6 months before I first had sex it even hurt/ was uncomfortable to put a tampon in. I also used to get really wet when horny but now, in my relationship where we do have frequently sex, I can’t anymore. I mean sometimes I can, but I feel like my body sees sex as a threat and not something pleasurable.
Even with masturbation it’s really hard to find a place that gives me pleasure / no pain (after years of practice I do know now but it used to be hard), and it was a long time before I could orgasm (sometimes I was masturbating for 4h). Even my clit hurts if I touch it at the wrong angle.
Any ideas what this could be?
Started having sex when I was 16. Now I’m 39 and I hope that one of these days I will finally start having regular orgasms when having sex. Lol this is kind of a joke though, I don’t think I will ever have regular orgasms during sex.
I know what to do when I’m by myself and it happened when I was accompanied, got help from partners, toys, etc but now I just accepted that’s how I am and that’s fine. I still enjoy it a lot even without an orgasm and it’s just not my goal when having sex with someone.
Second time I had sex (first time was just bad all around as we both were so nervous lol). I already knew my body all too well so I just told him what I liked. All my relationships after that, I’ve been lucky to get with men that are somewhat experienced but whenever they doing something wrong or unhelpful, I just tell them how to do it right and they’ve always been receptive so I’ve had no issues with orgasms.
Masturbating is very important girls. Get to know your body and it’ll be easier for others to know it too.
With another woman, first time. With a bloke, like, 15 years.
Regular orgasms with a partner? 10 years. ANY orgasm with a partner? At least 7 years.
I actually believed for YEARS that it was my problem and it wasn’t possible for me, despite the fact that I could pretty easily get myself off and had been for years before ever having sex.
To any ladies who might be in the same boat: yes it absolutely is possible, but it takes focus (don’t listen to advice that says just don’t think about it and it’ll happen) and a patient partner who really cares about getting you off for YOU, not because it’s some masculinity thing for them. And please let go of the idea that it needs to be from only penetration for it to “count”… that’s bs made up by men who are too lazy to pleasure their partner. And PLEASE, stop faking orgasms, you’re only hurting yourself.
This new guy I’m seeing finally made me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im 29!!!! I had sex for the first time at 15 but I don’t count that because he was evil so 17!!!!! I truly never thought I would ever because every man just rams into me and is so random with foreplay. Like so so so off the mark. And they rush through it.
He asked if he could see HER and I was like no I’m very self conscious she’s ugly!!! He’s like let me see. Im like im very nervous. He’s like it’s ok but can i just see? It’s probably not that bad, you talk very badly about yourself and you’re always wrong. It’s never that bad like there’s no such thing as a hideous one. I’m like ok. Fine. He’s like wow so so so pretty truly not even just saying that like looks picturesque. I’m like are you lying. He’s like no if it wasn’t nice I wouldn’t use so much language like looks so perfect. He’s looking AT her while saying this. I’m like ok thank you. He’s like can I touch? You clearly want me to haha. I am like ok yes. He was so so so slow and so gentle and really slowly touched me and asked if he could kiss and I was like ok yes. Oh my god!!!!! Before when women I’d met were like it is better than masturbation I didn’t believe them and thought they just really liked their bfs. Omg. I have been thinking about it incessantly. I finished so fast it felt SO good I felt so relaxed after I was SO relieved I didn’t have to fake until he stopped. After I was like were you lying did you think actually pretty. He’s like yes not only so pretty but so easy like your 😉is higher and so easy to find and kiss and inside can very clearly feel where your 😉is so I can massage it at same time. I am like really. He’s like yes why would you think ugly. I’m like I don’t know I have never felt like it was pretty at all and always just kind of ignored it and viewed it for functionality. He’s like ?? Haha what??
Why did my first boyfriend and the first guy I slept with just continuously try to convince me I/it was hideous hahahhaa like were they gay???? it made me so anxious about sex and being naked in front of everyone to the point where I didn’t want to look at it at all. Because I thought “ok well I’m about to sleep with this man and not have an orgasm” I never thought of it as like. I always thought there was a low limit to the fun/enjoyment I could have. There is so much fun to have literally why did everyone around me hurt me and make me feel like life in general is going to hurt and be bad and me existing alone is bad lmaoooooo ???????? . I was always nice and kind and gentle and fun and smart and inquisitive and interesting. Why have people worked so hard to make me feel bad about myself ??? Jealousy and self hatred lmfao
Im like I will not fall in love with this guy and I haven’t had sex with him or really even done anything to him but he is amazing at. Generosity! He is so good at head haha!!!