I am 24, never had a long term boyfriend. I'm not a virgin, but I don't sleep around either. I don't judge those who do, but i personally am not comfortable with sleeping with someone until i know them a bit better.
It seems I keep meeting men who want to hookup asap, even if i say I don't want a situationship, or that I am not comfortable yet, or even that i'm on my period, or anything. I'm always hit with the "why not have fun and see where it goes" or "let it be natural" etc. And many of my friends with LTRs met their boyfriend on a night out and hooked up, and THEN got into a relationship.
So, am I doing it wrong? I don't understand how to date because I've never had a bf and I guess I am a bit naive and I just don't know what to do. Am i a prude?
Most recent example, i went on a date with a guy from hinge yesterday who semi-respected me saying no. He kept trying and said he thought it felt natural (granted, we were kissing, because i like kissing. To me, that doesn't give anyone the right to sex just because i enjoy kissing, especially after i've said 3 times that i'm not gonna do anything). i let it go too far and i'm mad at myself for it, but i froze because i didn't want conflict, and i was thinking in my head to just act normal and let whatever happens happen.
I feel like an alien on earth because idk how to navigate these situations. Men seem to only see me as an object of desire regardless of how many times i say no. When they realize i'm serious, they seem to leave without giving it more time, which makes me feel worthless. But then the guys that I have slept with (except for one, who i did date and he was an angel but he moved away shortly after for school) didn't want anything serious.
So yeah, i don't know what to do. If i hookup, they don't want to date. If i don't hookup, they don't want to date. Am I a prude? I don't know what the normal process/correlation is in regards to sex and dating. Please, any advice helps because I'm becoming hopeless