I wrote another post about this situation there, just need to pick more brains on it to decide what to do.
We met on a dating app, he (M26) asked me out (F25) immediately and was admittedly very nervous during the date. We made out, but somehow never discussed what to do next or exchanged numbers. He messaged me saying good night afterwards, and I thought I had left my necklace at his place and texting so I had asked him to look for it. He told me he couldn’t do it then as he was busy at the moment, but messaged me a week later saying that he’d tidied up and failed to find my necklace.
That was it, but I would think about him now and then and so a week later I messaged him on the app asking if I could have seen him down town that day. He replied immediately saying it hadn’t been him, but asked me out again instead. I asked him what time suited him, and he asked for my number instead. However, he never read that message. I waited for 5 days and sent a joking message calling his behaviour inconsistent. He didn’t read that either, and he is never on the app anymore.
I am somehow hurt by this situation, as him asking me out again gave me hope. I must admit I only got fully invested after that, but now I’d love to see him again. I understand that he might have lost interest, but then apparently he is not looking for new girls on the app either, and I remember him telling me he was to go on a business trip around this time, so he might be busy. I also know that he has only recently parted with his girlfriend whom he wanted to marry.
My friends told me I could try contacting him again sometime later once I overcome my emotions, because I must admit I did have a few cries about the whole thing. I am thinking about waiting a couple of weeks and then trying to contact him if I still have the desire. I know a bar he frequents (it is in his apartment block), and I thought about leaving a note for him with the bartender or asking the bartender for his number. We share some acquaintances on the socials, but since he never shared it, I guess contacting him there would be a breach of privacy.
So do you think I should shoot my shot once again, or is it a lost battle? It’s just that he is a rare combination of brains and being my type looks-wise, and I felt that there might be some interest on his part, otherwise why ask me out on a second date?