Hello all,
My girlfriend and I have been dating for 5.5 years and living together for 4. Last year I brought up talking about our longer term future and getting engaged. My girlfriend shut down the conversation and said she wasn't ready to talk about it. I suggested couples' counseling and we have been attending that for ~1 year.
Throughout counseling our conversations never really changed. She has some hesitations about saying yes and committing to me. She can't articulate exactly why or what would make things change. After trying for a year I told her I think it is best for us to separate. I lost hope that things would change.
I suggested that we stop therapy, moved into the spare bedroom in our apartment, and said that we should call it quits because we aren't progressing. She has been distraught over the last several weeks. She cries herself to sleep every night, Keeps wanting to talk about the things she enjoyed in our relationship and says she is going to regret this. Now she says she wants to make things work. I am torn, this is what I wanted to hear but I am hesitant to go back because it took a year and me saying I am done to get any of this.