Heyy, I [19F] have been in a relationship with my boyfriend [21M] for 1.5 years now. He graduated from his university program last summer and really wanted to go traveling. He managed to arrange everything, and since October he’s been traveling in Asia. I’m really happy for him that he gets to do this, and I truly support him. I only told him that I would like to call sometimes, FaceTime, and get updates from him. When he was still in the Netherlands, he completely agreed with that, but since he left it seems like he’s forgotten all about it, whether consciously or not.
Sometimes he just replies really slowly, and I don’t mean like 2/3/4 hours. No, sometimes I don’t get a response or any update for more than 10 hours. And when I try to schedule a FaceTime call, it’s often difficult because he’s busy. I totally understand that he wants to enjoy his time there and that the time difference doesn’t help, but I’d really love to get more updates and see what he’s doing, because it just seems fun to see.
Even when I ask, “What did you do today?” his answers are pretty short. I’ve already brought this up at least three times and told him that I find it frustrating, because I want to see how he’s doing and what cool experiences he’s having. Sometimes it gets better for a day or two after I mention it, but then it goes right back to how it was.
What advice would you give me? He’ll be gone for another 3.5 months, and I’d really hate for things to stay like this the whole time.
TL;DR
My boyfriend has been traveling in Asia for months and barely responds to my messages or gives updates, even though we agreed to stay in touch. His replies are slow and short, and attempts to schedule calls mostly fail. I’ve told him multiple times that this bothers me, but nothing really changes.