Hi guys,
Briefly about me, I have been married to my wife for 13 years, over 8 of them and have fulfilled everything we want (built a house / 2 children / are all healthy and can lead a normal life)
As is always the case, a lot of sex at the beginning, then less and then more when fulfilling the desire to have children, then again not for ages and the current record where we haven't had sex is currently 24 months and now we're back at 14 months. Of course everyday life gets through and you have less time… My wife was never that active but even after the pregnancy she didn't feel like it and the children are important to us. Now the children are 4 & 6 but it just doesn't work anymore. After several attempts to change it, no matter how, or to relieve the burden on her in everyday life and talk about it, it didn't happen. I almost lost my job and went to a support group to try to change myself but it didn't help. Then she bought a toy and used it whenever I was at a friend's house once a week. Kept denying it and the usual.
TL;Dr,My question: What can I do to make it better and if so, how long did it take for you to get back to normal? I would like it to be 4-5 times a month, but my wife prefers once a month if at all and then everything has to be right