TLDR; girlfriend is sharing a bed with a male friend on a trip away this week and was short with me on the phone when I called after work, I’m a little concerned
Hi all,
Me and my girlfriend who have had an extremely rocky on/off relationship for the past 2 months have just had a bit of an argument over text.
She’s visiting a male straight friend who she knows from travelling 2 years back. She’s currently visiting his home in Manhattan, NYC and we are from Europe. At the start of our relationship (18 months back) she asked if she could go visit him and stay in his bed to save money. I expressed that was a boundary for me, that she doesn’t share a bed with another guy, especially whilst drinking. Back then she decided not to go and see him.
We recently broke up for a couple of weeks and she booked to go and see him in NYC this week. She swears that nothing has ever happened and he’s almost like a gay best friend to her, I have spoke to both of them on FaceTime since being away and I can see what she means. We are now back together.
Today as I finished work, I gave her a call, she seemed a bit off and short with me so I ended the call early (politely). I expressed to her that the call made me feel weird and it’s brought up thoughts of a boundary I put in place, and yet here we are with her sharing a bed with another guy. I said that I understand the circumstance that NYC is very expensive and she booked with when we weren’t together but it’s still making me feel a little strange.
She hasn’t yet so far been very receptive to my messages. Basically stating that I would never share a bed with the opposite sex out of respect for her. I said I’m not complaining as I understand the circumstance and that I’m just illustrating my perspective.
Would anyone else be okay with their significant other sharing a bed with the opposite sex in this scenario?