My SO (37M) and I (35F) have been together for over 15 years and have 3 small children together.
The last 2 weeks my SO had the flu. Myself and my oldest had already gotten over it. Nobody bothered my SO while he was sick and he even slept in a separate room to rest for a while. He was feeling better but not 100% when my 2 infants got sick and he took them to urgent care and got them medication. That weekend he did not a lot which was fine (laid on the couch and hung out with the kids with me).
Then the second week he claimed he thought he picked up a different bug. Unfortunately that was the week of Thanksgiving, so he didn’t do much the day of or evenings leading up to it. (Wore a mask and chopped carrots to then decide to lay on the couch. No biggie.)
Friday I then found out, while he’s been very sick at home after work, he drove coworkers to lunch and had lunch with people earlier in the week…I commented how that was pretty crappy to somehow rally for a lunch gathering but come home sick and wiped out. That set him off. Screaming at me that I’m ridiculous for saying that and driving/going to lunch is not an indicator of how sick a person is.
Later he decided he wasn’t finished so texted me that I “barked” orders at him all Thanksgiving, which is just not true and I told him that. After that, he said how hurt he was about how I don’t believe him on being sick and it’s not like I even take care of him or anything. Which irritated me since I have 3 kids to care for solo while he’s sick…and I did believe that he was ill, just seems he’s willing to rally for coworkers (and then checkout when he’s home).
Later on, I found he screenshotted all these texts. (We share a Google photos drive.) Wtf??