I ‘M24’ have been dating my girlfriend for two and a half years ‘F23’.
For starters my girlfriend has had issues about controlling her emotions and jealousy the entire relationship. I have always tried to do my best to comfort and communicate. I have never done anything that would betray her trust in me. Some quick examples that have been a consistent issue have been her being very clear that I cannot have any communication with any other woman coworkers, social media, friends and any other way. She also has a problem of every now and then getting mad about my past relationships and digging up the past. She would get pretty upset and mad at me in private and say some nasty things about me or other people I have known.
But recently she’s been acting out in public. She had an outburst at the bar when my friends and I went out for my birthday and started crying because a woman asked me if she could get to the bar to get a drink and so I moved out the way. Then the next day my friends threw a surprise party for me and that night she went off on my friend for bringing up a co worker I used to work with that was a female. Which I had to apologize for her behavior.
But this part is that I can’t get over and has put me in a hole. On thanksgiving we went to my family’s house and she wanted me to attend her thanksgiving after. So she left my house early and later I left to go to hers. I arrived and her entire family is there and I don’t see them that much so I like to stay respectful and polite. I sit for about 20 minutes when her cousin which is a female the same age as me gets up to leave and hugs everyone goodbye including me. For extra information I was getting over a cold at the time and still had a runny nose. After the hug I wiped my nose and that’s when my girlfriend flipped. She took the action of me scratching my nose as a sign of affection for her cousin. She comes up to my a whispers “I saw that you fucking asshole” and right after that her grandmother walks up and asks what is wrong because she noticed my girlfriend getting mad. My girlfriend then says “you want to know what’s going on?” As everyone goes quiet and looks over at us. She then yells “He fucking finds (cousins name) attractive!” And I stood there in shock as I try and explain that it’s not true. She then goes on to yell at her entire family that I am an asshole, douchebag, cheater, etc. This goes on about an hour of my trying to defend myself and her accusing me of cheating. I realize that I should probably leave and so I got up and left.
I havent talked to her since and she’s tried to text me and apologize. But is it worth to be with someone who’s willing to publicly trash on you and embarrass you? Or be single? I just want to hear opinions about this. I’m taking a break from her until I can figure out how I feel.