The title should say : Struggling with going no contact with a negative parent .
I am trying to go no contact with my mother after years of trying to make excuses for her complicity in serious physical abuse when I was a child (starting at 9 ). She still is with my father who was the abuser and she makes excuses for his behavior which caused real issues for me to overcome. I have realized I can’t move on unless I go completely no contact , at least for a 3-6 months .
She’s elderly and frail so this makes me feel bad but I realize as a man and father I have to take care of myself and my child . Has anyone else experienced a similar dynamic with a parent (or relative ) where you felt no contact was the only option? Thanks in advance and I hope everyone is having good holiday season