I need some advice on what actually happened because honestly i can’t process all of this. So i started talking to this guy i met on a dating and my first initial phone call i was sure about him because he “accidentally” trauma dumped on me and was sober because of his past addictions. Anyways he lived 2 hours away and he didn’t mind driving to see me and going back home at 2 am. He was putting a lot of effort and love bombing me and telling me how im the prettiest girl he ever met and im the best he ever had, we had a small argument and i told him to take me home and as he kept apologizing to me and i said its ok i forgive you he started crying because he said he doesn’t ever want to lose me because im the only person to listen to his problems and actually hear him out and no one ever made him feel like that. Everything was so intense and we would text constantly, he would ask to call every night, face time, lots of effort and attention and affection from his side and on the second date he said he is falling for me and after while we were intimate he said he loved me. For the next month everything was amazing but he moved closer to me to start school and he didn’t have a job and he was running low on money, we had a stupid argument to where i told him i was done with him and we ended up making up because we were both at fault and a week later we had another argument because he picked me up super drunk and he was supposed to be sober, i told him he is embarrassing me etc and he dropped me back off and when he tried to call me i said its over and dont call me again. He didn’t contact me for couple days and thats when i messaged him telling him i feel like i deserved an apology but he didn’t think he did anything wrong.anyways we ended up making up but everything changed and he wasn’t as lovey dovey calling me baby or his sweet girl or wanting to talk on the phone anymore. Something changed and shifted and when i was trying to hangout with him he cancelled last minute and i was so upset and i told him fine i will hangout with someone else. He got upset and didn’t talk to me or said a word. Thats when i apologized and explained i was hurt he cancelled last minute, he said his new job got him working a lot of hours and he is tired and since he is starting school soon he doesnt know if he’s going to have time for me. Anyways last week he started school and is now looking for another job for part time at night and he said he’s been very stressed out and we were supposed to see each other but that didn’t happen because he basically said he can’t put me before school and its not fair to me to be dragging it like this and he thinks its best to take a step back. To which I replied I understand. That was on Saturday, i haven’t heard anything from him, he still follows me on ig but doesn’t view my stories even though he is active…also i thought he would at least text me happy thanksgiving or something since we technically didn’t break up…or did he? Idk what to think…is he an avoidant? He was adopted growing up and has a lot of trauma from that, also addictive personality and he opened up to me about him being suicidal…i feel like he lowkey played me but idk