Me (22) and my boyfriend (25) have been together for over 2 years now. We both live in a different country, it’s a 2 hour drive and we only see each other on the weekends because we both work. I already live alone.
Our relationship is very stable and we both want to grow old together.
Here’s the thing. I really want to live together so our relationship can move forward. I’m willing to move to his country. He keeps giving excuses on why he doesn’t want to move in together now. For example ‘I don’t want to put my savings into a rent apartment’ ‘it’s throwing away money to rent something’ it’s ALL about the money, while money isn’t the issue. He keeps saying things that don’t make any sense or aren’t relevant in our situation. Because we CAN live together financially. We’ve talked about it a lot and he doesn’t seem to care that I’m just ‘waiting’ for him, and I’m very lonely at home. I have a feeling he just doesn’t want to live with me. I don’t know if this is the only reason why he doesn’t want to live together, or if he doesn’t want to leave his mom. I don’t know. But every conversation we have ends in ‘it will be okay we’ll figure it out’ but I can’t wait any longer, it’s an important decision for me.
Does anyone have tips on how to talk about this? Or how to explain to him in a different way that this is very important for me?
TL;DR: boyfriend has reasons to not live with me, but the reasons seem unrelevant.