Hello,
My wife and I got married in march 2019 and things were great in the bedroom, but then after loosing my dog of 15 years in dec 2019, my mom a year later and then my job in summer of 2021, sex went dead. Now thinking about it, its also health and stress issues for both of us, but also she always initiated and I really dont know how. At one point she said she was tired of initiating, which i can fully understand. We both have depression, anxiety, etc. I have problems with self esteem too.
Before her I only had a few dates, never had a relationship or a girlfriend. Plus I only paid for sex, so I felt very newbieish.
I was 46 when we got married. Yes you read thst right. So I felt very very inexperienced, etc. Never having an active sex life.
Im working on therapy and loosing weight (ive always been morbidly obese) but health and stress are still a big issue.
I could use some advice of how to initiate intimacy and sex again. Please remember ive never had active sex life except with her when we first got married. Im sure that plays a part.
Feel free to ask any questions and or message me.
Thank yoy
Bill