32M here. Married 8 years, have a bunch of cute kids. For some reason my wife never seems to truly believe I love her, no matter what I do. Seems like she's always looking for proofs that I hate her and/or will reject her.
I'm reading "Self-Compassion" by Kristin Neff right now and she says in there that people who weren't emotionally supported when. they were younger often don't trust the world, and actually WANT to be rejected, and I feel like that hit the nail on the head as to my wife's personality. She's not gonna ever go to therapy for anything and we've managed pretty well despite that (except during pregnancy…I'll save that emotional release for another post, lol); I'm just wondering to hear from guys who've been married slightly /a lot longer than I have if there ever comes a point where your wife actually feels secure with you and stops saying things like this….
P.S. I'm NOT asking "is there ever a point that I can stop giving my wife love"…it just gets frustrating right now (and the past 8 years) that a lot of times even when I show her love, she still thinks I don't love her.
P.P.S. this post is coming off of a mini vacation we just took. Was SO much fun together. And not 5 days later she's saying those things again…like, do I have to hire a banner-plane to drag "I love you!" across the sky for her to know?!?!