So I’m very young (19F) and new to dating (I’m actually not dating right now but thinking about starting in the near future), I’ve only experienced a few crushes but the last one (that began a few months ago, since ended) I could have sworn he felt something too but he made it quite evident it must’ve been all for show 🙄. Anyhow, looking back on it, I really did like the “playful” moments we shared, always smiling with each other and I felt like he did care about what I had to say.
My question to you is, is it a bad idea to go into dating looking for someone who reminds me of him? Now let me say, looks wise, he was my type and my type is pretty common so I think that part won’t be hard or big of a deal. Just through social media and tv I’ve seen a few people that resemble him. But if I go in chasing after/judging my dates based on comparing it to how I felt around him (my past crush) would that be unfair? Or is that just a “standard” I’d have?
Tbh, I dunno if I’m completely over him at the moment (not quite sure what that looks like) but after how he ended things I definitely don’t want to be with him anymore btw.
1 comment
Knowing what you like and looking for it is fine. Nothing wrong with that at all.
Trying to recreate something that is gone, is not healthy at all. That is where the line is here.
Can you judge a new crush based on who they are and how they act or will you just judge them by who that old crush was?