Hello all,
My wife and I are undergoing marriage therapy.
The counselor says that my wife needs significant help and this will take time so I have to be 100% supportive and not reactive.
I want to support but my wife continues to blame me for all everything, argues about small things from the past, and says things like " you are boring", "i am not attracted", etc. I know that this is just her inner child that is longing for love.
I want to hear her out but there is a part of me that wants to withdraw from the negativity and talk less to her. Some days I am so disturbed that I have not been sleeping at nights and skipping meals.
I know that is wrong. Pls share your thoughts on how should I be supportive and keep my calm and mental peace
Background: We have been together for the last 10 years. She has had traumatic upbringing. No doubt that I could have been more supportive, but my small incidents are blown out of proportion as she links the dots to her past's patterns. This has resulted in lack of trust and no matter what I do, she points out what I didn't do.