Found out my (religious) husband used escorts before we got married but he hid it from me.
I’m in quite a lot of shock and don’t really know what to think, so could use some advice.
Me and my husband got married around 2 years ago, we were introduced by mutual friends, and both fell in love with each other through meeting. We only dated a year before getting married. A few months before we had gotten married was the first time he told me about his sexual past. He has had intimate experiences with a LOT of different people. By that point I was truly in love with him and the guy that I saw was very different to who he says he used to be. He told me he wanted to be closer to God and this was all because he was with the wrong crowd in Uni and due to some things that happened in his past which left him insecure. It took me awhile to process and get to terms with this because I never had a past with anyone in that way but because I had loved him so much by then I just accepted it. He has been the most supportive and I know he loves me a lot.
Due to his past, I sometimes get insecurities of my own. I recently checked his phone and to my surprise I found around 6-7 years ago some text messages that he was texting escorts (maybe prostitutes), not just one, there were a few messages. I feel sick to my stomach and can’t imagine why he would do this. To be honest, I don’t know if this is actually common for men, the same way as drinking and doing drugs. When I think of the type of men that visit prostitutes, I would never think that my husband would be one of them.
A question to men, is it more common than us women think for men to go to prostitutes? And if any women religious or not have had this experience, how have you dealt with it?
I haven’t told my husband that I saw this on his phone and I feel really bad that I did it, but now due to what I’ve seen, I feel sick.