Maybe controlling isn’t the right word, but bear with me. My husband (46) and I (45F) Have been married for about 20 years. We have 3 kids, 2 hs & one middle school. I’ve always worked, he is a habitual job hopper except for recently when he hasn’t “hopped” into another job for about 2 years. He claims he is self employed, marketing, but no money comes in from that because he really doesn’t even try. He does have money coming in from his military service in the past.
While the income part bothers me, most of what is getting to me now is that he is not doing anything to really be fulfilled daily. He does housework, carts kids around and fits in the gym, which is nice… but he’s starting to go a little stir crazy. I’m successful in my career. Recently he insisted he has my location on his phone, questions meeting I have to attend especially out of town, and insists on joining me, when it’s really not appropriate. These things have always been part of my job. Along these lines he just questions so much. He won’t let me go out with girlfriends. No girls trips, nothing on my own.
The kicker, I have NEVER been unfaithful or even have thought of that. I’ve never given him a reason to question me.
I need him to find a job… SOMETHING. He’s educated but has gone through so many things and seems not motivated at all to do any sort of work (employment wise). I’m at a loss.