Hey you guys I don't get down here much but I was just wondering today if anyone has been through a situation like this and had any encouragement or ideas.
I am 33m and the wife is 36f and we were married this summer, our relationship has always been very positive and I knew within a couple months I knew I wanted to marry her and three years later now w have achieved our dreams.
The trouble is that my wife in her therapy has uncovered a ton of trauma and I know she is making a great effort to work through it, I won't get into all the details but it involves sexual violence at an extremely young age and it is more severe than either of us or anyone helping her through it anticipated.
Because of how much trauma my wife has experienced she has a very hard time trusting anyone and I am grateful for her considering me safe enough to be part of recovery and I am proud of how far she has come.
But as a result of this I feel like the overwhelming majority of the relationship has become my responsibility and I don't mind being supportive but over the last two years of this I feel just disengaged from our marriage as a romantic relationship and I feel like I am taking over as a parent and I can feel apathy creeping in, there are lots of times I can't help feeling distant.
I absolutely know that things will be better eventually and I want to be strong for her until then but I am struggling with feeling all alone in our marriage right now and I was wondering if there's any other guys who have been or are also where I am who know what it's like and how I can deal with it