My issue is basically every time my bf goes down on me (21F), he has to run to the bathroom after maybe a minute to spit out whatever’s in his mouth. He always apologizes when he does it, but the first time he did it I felt so bad and was in a bit of a shock actually.
I’ve had several people go down on me before (once or twice during my period also) and neither of them ever indicated that they wanted to spit anything out. I’ve also gone down on a woman many times and the thought of spitting out had never even occurred to me.
I bathe every day, I shave down there too. I discussed with some girlfriends and figured the spitting out thing isn’t exactly normal, but I overlook it as I figure it’s just a preference on his part. He never asks me to swallow when I give him head; in fact he was surprised when I swallowed the first time and told me I don’t have to do that. I personally don’t have an issue with it so I just swallow.
The problem now is, I can only finish and get wet from oral sex. And it takes time for me to get enough build up to finish, but whenever he goes to spit out I instantly get turned off and whatever build up is there goes. And because of this issue I don’t get wet enough for penetrative sex…that always ends up hurting for me.
What should I do?? My bf says it’s a personal thing for him, he’s never been able to go down on a girl without spitting out. But I love oral sex and the thought of not having it or finishing during sex is rlly bumming me out. Otherwise the relationship is great so it seems silly to be making a fuss about this aspect of it.
Can someone give me advice on how to bring this up with him?