I’ve been talking to a guy a few days on tinder, then a few days on Instagram, and I don’t think I’m interested in him anymore or would like to meet him in person. It doesn’t sit well with me to ghost because I’ve been supposedly showing interest in him at the start, but talking more it seems he’s far more invested than I am and I struggle to connect with someone before meeting them in person. It also feels unfair on him that I have somewhat gotten the ick from the amount of “:))))” he puts every second message, and I feel terrible because that’s not necessarily a red flag. He doesn’t seem to be as ambitious and adventurous as I would like a partner to be, and I’m looking for someone who also understands how important it is to build up your own life, even in a relationship.
I don’t think ghosting him would be fair at all, but I also think rejecting him before even meeting him in person is rough too. What’s the best way to go about this?
Edit: to the single men who have yet again started dming me, please stop. I can’t believe I have to ask every single time I post to this subreddit.