Does anybody else relate to this statement? I (32M) just got out of therapy session and reached this conclusion after talking about some kind of block that I believe I have that makes me single for the past 10 years.
Just want to open this topic here for people that need or have realized this.
In my case, it's a matter of choosing the wrong person, being interested by people that are not a good fit, and dismissing people that might be what I need and want.
This happens as an attempt to compensate how insufficient I feel as a man, so I tend to try to date people that I see as someone that will make everyone look at me as good enough, because she is good enough.
This makes me overlook people that are actually what I want/need. If they are not going to make me feel and look better to others, I feel there's something wrong with the relationship.
I have fun with them? I feel good with them? They like me for who I am? I like them for who they are? This doesn't matter as much as what my wounds want, my wounds want something else.