Hello everyone,
I’am 42 and my wife 33 and we have been together for 9 years, 4 married.
Two weeks ago my wife told me that she organized a after work drink with her team coworkers (men and womens) wednesday (past week).
Then last week she told me that it was moove to this wednesday.
This sunday she told me that this wednesday she will have this drink with jack and jade (famtasy names).
I probably made a strange face because she asked me what was wrong.
I told her who are this jack and jade because i never heard abut them.
She explained that thise 2 arent coworkers from hers team but another one but same branch.
I didnt know them coz she never mantioned about those.
I felt it was ok because i knew on wednesday she was working in that branch so it was fine to have a drink after work.
Yesterday (wednesday) she texted me at 5 pm. Telling me jade had a problem so only her and jack were in the office and she asked me if it was ok for me if she went with only jack to get drink.
I told her that she had to decide and that i cannot decide for her.
So she texted me she will have only a glass of wine and then come back home.
To give some context this guy jack is 23, single and good looking.
So she went with him to get a drink at 6 pm he paid
For her and she was home at 9 pm. (She stayed with him for like 2 and half an hours).
I feel that something is off in this situation and that there were too many coincidence that casually led them to have a drink alone.
In all those years she had a lot pf lunch with coworkers that became somewhat like friends.
The strange thing is that she never had this after work drink with the others that she also knew better..
I must say i feel something is off!
What do you think?
Small update:
I got proof that originally she invited him 3 weeks ago to a drink after the work but she said also to call other 2 coworkers friend (both female)
Than 1 was away wedenesday and i already told u about the other.
The bad news is i checked her work pc to check if it was true that she talked to him only on teams from work…but she has clearly cancelled the chat conversation she had with him (it was empty)
Tomorrow for sure we are gonna talk about that! Coz i really think nothing happened but deleting the chat means something for sure.
I just. Think i stopped the think before it started…but its hard to live with someone that makes you feel worried like that
BIG UPDATE: after seeing the chat deleted last night i noticed that i could see some messages from her to him in th notification tab.
They werent normal message between coworker.
Today i made a bit bluff and told her i read all the chat before she deleted. She admitted she was flirting with him for a month. She said he wasnt making a moove because she was married so she was the one asking for a drink. She invited the other 2 coworkers to feel less guilty.
She also told me that after meeting him she realized how crazy the situation was and told him that the they had to stop everything