Hey, so I’m a 27 year old straight male. In my last relationship a few years ago I was introduced to a finger in the ass, and it changed my world. It was her who wanted to do it and I finally let her, and I never looked back, I wanted it all the time.
Anyway we broke up and now I’m seeing someone new. But the issue I have is I’m generally quite a dominant person when it comes to the bedroom. I want to do some stuff with her and mention the idea of a finger up the ass, or potentially even more. But I’m scared the dynamics of the relationship will change.
I think I’m scared of losing control, losing that dominance over the relationship. Not that I’m in control of the relationship, it’s a healthy relationship but it’s very dominant sided for me and submissive sided for her.
I guess I’m scared she will see me as less masculine if we go down this road, and that will lead to a change in dynamics I might not be able to get back.
Am I just overthinking?
Should I just let my walls down a little and be a bit less dominant?
I do eventually want to try pegging.
My question is, do I just keep the relationship and sex life as it is, or open it up?
It feels risky because I’ve spoke to a woman before who said if their parter ever asked them to peg them they’d lose attraction.