I (F26) have been with my boyfriend (M27) for about 8 months now , he is extremely sweet to me , honestly the “healthiest “ relationship I’ve ever been in but that’s not saying much because I usually date very toxic men. He spoils me , treats me gently and we have a great time together. But as of late, for like the last 3-4 months I have been getting extremely annoyed, cringed out or just getting the overall ick for a lot of things he does or says. One of the main things that turned me off is that he is constantly talking about the money he makes, which isn’t even much to be bragging about but he loves to talk about when he makes any money. He’s also made certain remarks about less fortunate people like for instance making fun of those who need to use afterpay to afford things, in itself that’s just so shallow and an overall ick I think for anyone. I do think the flaunting money just shows that he is very insecure about other things so he tries to make up with that but wow it’s just not a good look. I also am the one who showed him the strings on this new side hustle, vending art, that he is doing , which for me is not about money it’s more for the passion of it all but he’s constantly talking about it and the money aspect which is kind of ruining that excitement of passion for me, and really just annoying me with just how much he talks about it but mostly just the money aspect. Now he also isn’t usually my physical type he is a lot heavier than anyone I’ve ever dated, he is also very feminine for a man, very soft spoken and has very feminine mannerisms like constantly flipping his hair and things of the sort, I think this is important for context. Even little things like the way he says Bye on the phone give me the Ick because it sounds sooo feminine. Besides things of that sort we honestly have a wonderful time together and have soo much in common as far as interests and humor and things of the sort, I do love him as well but it really bothers me that I will randomly get sooo annoyed to the point I wonder if I even like him even though I love him. I do hope that this feeling goes away, I know I should talk to him about this but I don’t want to hurt his feelings. I’m starting to wonder if this feeling can go away or could this be an indication of incompatibility?
TL;DR , boyfriend is extremely feminine and brags about money and is giving me the ick