I have been in a relationship for about 2.5 years with my current partner. I say partner now because I’m undecided on how to move forward with our situation.
We got married just shy of two months ago and I’m already feeling like either getting a divorce or an annulment. this man has lied and manipulated me so bad to the point where I cannot trust him or see us working out the issues in the future. He lied about his age, he used my social security number without my permission and lied about it, he would gas light me, jeopardized our living situations a few times and has not purchased one single thing for our kid as I’m currently pregnant. He has tried to say it was my fault and that I was the one leaving him but he was the one that said he was done with the relationship when I was about 6.5 months pregnant but then took it back because he was “being dumb” and I honestly don’t know how to feel.
He was not like this at first but it all started to dwindle downhill after we legally got married. I left and moved out on my own and have told him that I don’t trust him and I’m just not going to put me or my baby through a toxic situation like that and he accused me of keeping him from my pregnancy but that’s not true. I invited him to every appointment and told him every update there was. He only went to 3 appointments and did not go to a single one after that.
He also told me that he would disappear and I’d never be able to find him and he got upset because I didn’t “beg him to stay”?? I said oh, okay! Just let me know your plans for our kid and you may be free from this relationship. He basically didn’t like that I was not practically on my hands and knees begging him to stay. He has also stated that he didn’t need me in his life but then turned around and said I was all he had and such. He would get upset when I would cry to my family as he never liked when things about his actions got out which forced me into isolation but I couldn’t take it anymore! I told my family what he had said and done to me and they were just as equally surprised!! We all thought he was this different person but turned out he just truly showed us his true colors.
I’ve been in between staying or leaving officially and filing for divorce or an annulment because I’ve been treated less than scum for my entire pregnancy and this man completely flipped like a light switch on me and I don’t understand how or why. I was manipulated and financially abused by him and I kept trying to get him to acknowledge his actions and refused and kept trying to flip it on me but I’ve never done anything but ask for stability, honesty and communication from him and he’s given me non of that recently.
I am still giving him access to to our child of course as I won’t take that away and I’ll watch and see how he is once the baby is here but I don’t think we should stay together because of the damage he has done to our relationship both mentally, financially and such. But I want to ask am I making the right decision?? No one should be treated like that pregnant or not! I am perfectly fine with being able to co parent with him but I just don’t think the relationship can be fixed no matter how many times he claims he has changed and he is sorry and whatnot. It just feels a little too late for that now!