I am struggling to phrase this feeling better for my husband to understand.
Has your husband/wife made you feel like they are a better person/partner than you are? I feel this about my husband but can’t seem to make him understand the exact feeling.
It shows in little things. I feel like his love for me is so unconditional. He does not see me for what I do for work or how I contribute to household chores or anything I do basically. He loves me for me and he is able to love me like this even on difficult days.
For example, when I get overwhelmed, at times I fixate on his shortcomings and tend to rile myself up. We talk about it and things are resolved. And these are usually extremely silly things that don’t even matter.
However, I am starting to notice his behavior. He is always loving – not big gestures or anything grand. Just simple everyday things done with care and love. When I am unable to do something(again silly or big I.e., take the trash out or be the bigger person with his parents level), he says he always assumes good intent and moves on. How?! How does he do this consistently?
Once he explained this to me as: Our family(our dog, our kid, him and I) is a pack. We each take care of the pack and do what is necessary for the good of the pack with no judgments or questions. We make up for each other’s strengths and weaknesses as a pack and not individually.
I am trying to absorb this mindset and be a better person for him. I love and admire him more everyday. I realize each day that I got crazy lucky in the partner draw.
But how do I phrase how he makes me feel about his attitude? And how do I give myself grace when I am unable to show up the same way he does?
Do any of you guys feel this way about their spouse? That your spouse is literally the better half?
PS: post is not well written because I genuinely cannot describe it properly.