My wife (49) and I (52) have been married 16 years and have two teens. A couple years ago we dropped down to having occasional sex from a pretty healthy sex life and since then it has literally been 1x in 4 months on average. Im so over it. I have tried lots of ways to just initiate sex for the marriage (our therapist suggested this years ago after a seperation which we did). We used to have a great sex life but with all the work and home responsibilities, just going on a date is tough. She is starting menopause, is dealing with a toxic mother, increased work responsibility etc etc. So am I. However she makes time for boba with her girlfriend, massages, going to the dispensarie, walking the dog, cleaning the cat litter and literally everything else. Im not a lazy husband and share if not do more in regards to domestic duties. Im really starting to feel like she is being selfish. She initiated the talk with her ob/gyn and is is therapy and discussing this among other issues. I tried talking about it a couple months back and she blew up and started down the sepration/divorce route. Now, im scared to even bring it up. Im not willing to live in a dead bedroom situation here. Am I out of line? Im successful and if it wasnt for the kids I think I would leave.