Hi all!
I am a 23 (M) married to a 25 (F) we have married for two years (We dated 2 years before getting married)
Before you even say it, yes We were young when we get married, it wasn’t on my plans (neither on her plans) to get married, but we got pregnant, so we decided to formalize it.
I am happy with my family … not going to lie, there were some grey days, but thanks god, we have always have a roof over our heads, food in our plates, basic needs covered and some nice stuff in our hands.
Two years ago, when I was about to start a family, I sacrificed things, from friends, routines to even drop out of college an quit my entrepreneurship, to focus 100% on providing.
We are in a better shape now (Again, thanks to the lord) I resume college in a virtual university (Almost done with my degree) I got a better job, My business is back and stronger than ever, we upgraded cars, bought a house, get some vacation … overall, we are now, stable.
I will never stop providing, but I miss me and what I used to be like … I want to resume my hobbies … honestly I love my kid and wife, but I want some space for me, just me and my things
And I am not talking about going to Japan or similar … i just want to take some cooking lessons, maybe go swimming a couple of days before going to work, or even just play the guitar and the read a little.
I know I shouldn’t feel bad for wanting to this, but how do I tell my wife?
On a side note, she is a good woman, I enjoy time with her … but there are some activities that I do not want to share with her (I just want to cook a fucking pasta, open a wine, listen music … and, no in that moment I do not care about your friends, your family gossip or similar, I just want space for me)
Side note 2: Yes, before you ask, she has space for her (In fact she went on a dinner with her friends tonight) I am happy to take care of my boy for her to disconnect, but how do you ask your wife for the same back?