I have been dating my partner Tim for 6 months, however we have known each other for over a year. When we first slept together we waited a month because we didn’t want the whole relationship to be about that. At first it was great. We’d both get high and have really passionate love making sessions and everything was great. Every now and then he’d loose arousal but no biggie we’d pick up and try again later when we both felt like it.
Until one night after he’d been drinking all day and we were both in the mood so I started giving him head. The bozo fell asleep during and it really crushed my confidence. It took me a few weeks to get over. After consulting with several friends both male and female I felt like I could get over it. After all the guy has early mornings and he works hard. I got over that but now it’s even worse. Even if we make out or he goes down on me, even if I am stroking him or talking dirty it doesn’t matter what I’m doing, he keeps going soft and it’s at a point now what we barely have sex at all.
He’s a very giving person and gives me foot rubs and goes down on me. I know he wanks every night so it’s not a function issue. I feel like the only thing left in this equation is me.
I have tried talking about it, he just says he’s tired or he can’t control it.
I have tried talking about things he’s into he has given me the safest answers ever. We are really suffering. I feel so ugly and like he doesn’t want me but he’s so loving and sweet and helps me around the house when he’s here and he’s even met my kids. I have 2 and they love him. I love him!
I don’t know what to do anymore. I
Starting to feel like there no point in sex at all. I don’t want to just lay back and have orgasms, I want to connect with him, I want to feel wanted. Everything else is pretty good but I feel like I can’t take much more of this rejection. I have even asked him what I’m doing wrong and encouraged him to tell me what he likes. I’m very open minded and experienced and I’m usually really confident in the bedroom but this is tearing chunks out of my ego.
I am genuinely starting question everything and wondering what his motives are, because how can you tell someone you want them so bad and then go soft when they touch you or not get hard at all.
Any advice would be welcome.