My husband (28) and I (a 24-year-old woman) have been together for almost three years, and we got married six months ago.
For context, we're both from two different countries, and English isn't our primary language. I met him to practice speaking, but then we fell in love.
Even though we have different traditions and views on some things, we shared similar views on the fundamentals, so we saw a future in each other. We talked a lot about everything, exploring each other's past, present, and future.
I take antidepressants and have some issues that my husband helps and supports me with a lot. Thanks to them, my emotions are a bit slower and less intense. Although I'm overwhelmed by positive emotions in the moment, I'm happy that the negativity has diminished while the positivity remains the same. Besides, I have a bad memory, so if I remember something, it's either happened several times or really affected me.
I'm not sure exactly when it started, maybe a year ago, but I feel like my opinion isn't taken into account. When I talk about what's bothering me, he says either it didn't happen or it wasn't like that. When I asked him questions like, "What would you do if?", I ended up crying from his answers, and he got angry and told me never to ask that question again, even though I don't have the strength to ask anything else.
When he asks me something and I answer with my advice, he still does everything his way. And when I ask why he asked me, he ignores me and doesn't answer. It seems there's no point in saying anything; I won't be heard anyway. I understand that many things are trivial, and if there's a conflict and it doesn't matter to me, I'll give in, but it seems like I'm always the one giving in, and my opinion is completely irrelevant. He seems oblivious to my sad mood and ignores it all.
It hasn't even been a year since we got married, and I don't know what to do. I was thinking of writing him a letter with everything I'm worried about, so he can't interrupt me and speak up, but on the other hand, he might still end up saying nothing happened, and it'll feel like I'm making a big deal out of it. I don't know what to do. He's a really good husband in all other respects, he's supportive and understands most of my needs and interests, just as I try, but I'm not sure what to do about this. Given our whole history, it seems like a trivial matter and it's better to just keep quiet about it, but it worries me, and I'm literally on the verge of tears almost all the time.