Me F21 and my Boyfriend M24 have been together for about 9 months now and I really do love him a lot, but he does 1 thing that really upsets me. It feels like every time I see him and anytime we talk, the topic is always about sex. Every time he says anything to me, it’s about sex. It feels like that’s the only thing he ever talks about. I have brought this up to him and he has made it clear that sex isn’t the only reason he’s with me. I have said many times that I feel like the only things he ever says are about sex and he says that he will get better, but I don’t feel like he has. My issue is, I know that he thinks he has gotten better, but I don’t feel any better about it. Along with this, he grabs at me (in the places you’d expect) very often. Normally it’s okay but he can’t walk by me or sit with me without doing it no matter how many times I tell him to stop. It gets to a point where it’s all very overwhelming and I hate it. My question is, how else can I explain this to him? How much better could I communicate this to him in order for him to understand? A man’s perspective would be very helpful but also other women who have maybe dealt with this. I love him a lot and breaking up isn’t an option to me. TIA.
EDIT: I feel the need to add in that when I say I have “brought it up” I mean that I let it slide many times and and don’t say anything until it’s happened enough times that I blow up at him and we get into a fight because instead of gently saying “hey, I don’t enjoy this” I just start bottling it up until I can’t anymore. My past relationship was incredibly abusive and has given me a very poor outlook on men and relationships in general. Part of me wonders if I tend to focus on the negative parts more than the positives and that’s why this seems so huge to me. I appreciate the responses, but I wanted to clarify that I’m not perfect either and could use some work.