I'm 27M and i very rarely have sexual thoughts. I want sex, I associate it in my mind with something good, but I just can't get myself hard without lost of physical stimulation.
I very rarely watch porn, and I don't really get in the mood when seeing naked people of any gender or when touching people in real life.
I really want to increase my libido or to do something about this because it is ruining my relationships and confidence.
For example, in all relationships, but one, I barely managed to get hard during the first time. There is so much anxiety I can't control when it comes to the first time that I lose all sexual drive. Also now, because I know it happens every first time, I create a self fulfilling prophecy and I get even more stressed. (I also immediately lose erection when trying to put on a condom most times)
After getting to know someone it gets better, but even then I don't get in the mood more than once a week.
Recently I also developed psoriasis which makes red spots appear on my glans. Because of that I didn't have sex with anyone in almost half a year. I'm trying to get it sorted but it's a slow process.
Recently, I met a girl with whom I got along wonderfully. Amazing chemestry and all.. but when it came down to sex, because of the things I mentioned, I couldn't get hard, even while she was trying her best to give me a blowjob. We felt a bit off, but then, after a few more hours of trying we finally managed to do it. However, despite it being good on both sides, the girl decided to not continue with me, because she wants something spontaneous, not to spend hours to get me in the mood.
I don't know what to do. I realize I am stressed, I realize I've been sleeping less in the recent period, but I'm trying my best to fix those. I am also trying to walk everyday, to exercise.
Nothing seems to work. I don't know what to do. I want to increase my libido so much.. it's been like this ever since I started my sexual life 8 years ago.
Is there anything I can do?